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“What we mean by an Uncommitted Relationship”

Should our society continue to support multiple partner relationships?

Let’s just say we do . . . what will future society look like?  This is by no means a hypothetical question, but rather a realistic question.  Is it our natural instinct to want one partner or multiple partners in a marriage?  In my mind, the word jealousy comes to the forefront, which is defined as: jealous resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., or against another’s success or advantage itself. 2. mental uneasiness from suspicion or fear of rivalry, unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or aims. 3. … envy, jealousy (see synonym study at envy)  If this type of relationship is normal then why is word jealousy in our vocabulary and emotions?  Something to think about while you read this article.


Man in threesome marriage: ‘This should be the future of relationships’

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AUSTIN, Texas, May 22, 2017 (LifeSiteNews) — Two bisexual women and one man proclaim threesome marriage “should be the future of relationships” and that their threesome parenting is “setting a good example.”

Adam Lyons, 36, lives openly with two women, 28-year-old Brooke Shedd — with whom he has a two-year-old son, and 27-year-old Jane Shalakhova — who is eight months’ pregnant with his third son. He already has a seven-year-old stepson from yet another relationship.

“Three parents are better than two,” Lyons told the New York Post. “It enables us to manage daily life so much better.”

He says he notices “normal” two-person couples are often exhausted and struggle to keep up with work and children. “With three people, it’s logistically so much easier. … We share out the responsibilities, and it fits our sexual preferences too.” (more…)


While we are off “making noise and shinning light” in our chosen missions our adversary is having his way with our children.  A University Of Michigan Teacher claims Preschool Kids Are Too Heterosexual.  Yep, according to this teacher, children in preschool are not gay enough, and guess who else hears this? Sadly, this is not a voice in the wilderness but a commonplace occurrence in the 21st Century and it will get the undivided attention of those who intend to destroy the family.  And because of our disunity,  these children, plus a few brave parents and common sense Americans will be blistered if they dare to do or say anything. They all need our support , confidence and backing.


Letters to Editors and Public Servants



Brenda K. Arthur

P.O. Box 8504

South Charleston, WV  25303


October 1, 2016

The Honorable Jeff Sessions

Attention:  Gene Hamilton

Senate Judiciary Committee

Subcommittee on Immigration and the National Interest

US Senate

Washington, D.C.  20510


RE: UN/US Refugee Admissions Program Dear Senator Sessions:

I am writing out of my deep concern for the invasion of our country which is being sponsored and sanctioned by our own State Department and the UNHCR through the Refugee Admissions program all with our own tax dollars.


The UNHCR is picking our refugees for us and it is clear that our State Department has failed in its mission for the people of the United States. This Refugee Admissions program is not serving the interest of the American people, but is serving the interests of lobbyists, globalists, and the 9 major Volags who are, and have been feeding at the public trough for decades now. Congress has failed miserably to provide for our interests and seemingly has “rubber stamped” the President’s determination yearly. Please hear us now as we make our plea to save our country. (more…)


If the US government continues to be in charge of health care we can certainly expect more of this.

Doctor’s offer to euthanize young woman leaves her mother ‘dumbfounded’

  1. ANTHONY, Newfoundland, July 26, 2017 (LifeSiteNews) — A Newfoundland mother wants an apology from the hospital where, she says, a doctor suggested her daughter should be euthanized.

Sheila Elson says she’s particularly upset because her 25-year-old daughter, Candice Lewis, overheard the conversation and has been traumatized. Lewis has suffered since birth from a number of medical conditions, including spina bifida, cerebral palsy and chronic seizure disorder. She was admitted to Labrador-Grenfell Health hospital at St. Anthony’s in September 2016, the Northern Pen reported.

Elson alleged that Dr. Aaron Heroux told her at that time assisted suicide was legal and her daughter qualified. “This left me dumbfounded and I told him it was something I did not want to consider,” Elson told the Northern Pen.

“The doctor wanted me to do assisted suicide death on her, told me that it was legal in Canada now and that he would like to help me with it,” she says “To me it was, O my God, you’re going to kill your daughter.” “I was shocked, and said, ‘Well, I’m not really interested,’ and he told me I was being selfish.”

She wrote about the encounter in a November 21 letter to Barbara Molgaard-Blake, chief operating officer south region for Labrador-Grenfell Health, reports the Northern Pen.“I am still very concerned about this, it is always on my mind,” Elson wrote.

“I am emotionally exhausted. I see that it has been also very stressful for Candice and one of my main reasons for writing this letter is that I don’t want any other family to have to go through this.” “She’s sick. [When] she gets sick, you take her to the hospital,” Elson said. “Whether she’s there 10 times a week or 25 times a day, she’s still a human being.”

One nurse referred to Lewis  as a “frequent flyer,” which she says was unfeeling.

Lewis, who has had 62 operations and requires 24-hour care, is capable of  communicating,  but Elson expressed doubt in her letter that her daughter fully understands what assisted suicide is.“She can make decisions like if she’s hungry, but when it comes to medical decisions, she’s not capable of making those decisions.”

Molgaard-Blake did not respond to Elson until June 6, when she wrote the doctors involved didn’t intend any disrespect, Elson described the letter as a joke, it reported.


Alex Schadenberg, executive director of the Euthanasia Prevention Coalition, described the situation as “disgusting.”The Liberal government’s Bill C-14, which legalized euthanasia in June 2016, “actually gave the power to the physician over life and death,” he said.

And once euthanasia is legal, “it’s natural” situations will come up “where some doctor thinks he’s helping someone by killing their daughter or by urging them to have their daughter die,” he told LifeSiteNews. “I’m very pleased  that here is a mother who loves her daughter,” he added. “Her daughter’s sick and she’s with her, she cares about her, and she’s shocked when somebody actually think that her daughter should be dead.”

Leanne Lawrence

Daddy State:

. . . and any sex in between.

Mom loses lawsuit against school that secretly gave her son ‘transgender’ treatment

ST. PAUL, Minnesota, May 26, 2017 (LifeSiteNews) — A mother’s lawsuit against a Minnesota school system for secretly helping her 15-year-old son “transition” to “female” was dismissed by a federal judge.

Anmarie Calgaro of Iron Junction discovered all too late last November that her son’s school was secretly giving him female hormone treatments with funding from the government. She sued the school district, the county health board, and a local health care entity for violating her rights as a parent.

But the school countered that the boy was “emancipated” from his mother because he had been living on his own, and was therefore legally able to make his own medical decisions.

The 15-year-old had previously moved in with his father — with the mother’s permission — to go to a better school (Calgaro is divorced from her husband). The boy then moved in with friends before eventually living on his own. The school interpreted the boy living on his own as “emancipation” from parental influence, determining that the minor teen could make his own elective medical decisions.

Unbeknown to the mother, the boy had also filled out an emancipation form and filed it with the help of a homosexual advocacy group.”If there had been a court order of emancipation, then Anmarie would have received notice and an opportunity to be heard,” Calgaro’s attorney Erick Kaardal of the Thomas More Society explained.

The mother says her son’s emancipation filing was filled with false information. For one thing, it claimed that the mother had surrendered her parental rights.The boy’s emancipation filing also claimed that Calgaro failed to report him “as a runaway” and “made no attempt to bring him home,” concluding that she “no longer wishes to have contact with him.” But the mother denies these claims.

The mother’s defense team says the case is essentially about protecting parental rights.

“The U.S. Constitution says that parental rights are fundamental rights, that can’t be terminated without due process,” Kaardal told the local CBS affiliate.

Calgaro said she is suing not just for herself but “for the benefit of all parents and families who may be facing the same violation of their rights.”

Because of the assumption of emancipation, the school refused to give Calgaro her son’s medical or educational records, and the Department of Human Services refused to give Calgaro information about his “transition” treatments, including a “life-changing operation,” according to the Thomas Moore Society (TMS).

TMS even notes that ironically, the boy’s application for a name change was denied by the St. Louis County District Court because of the “lack of any adjudication relative to emancipation.”

Inline image 1This week District Judge Paul Magnuson dismissed Calgaro’s lawsuit. He admitted the boy was not legally emancipated, and so Calgaro’s parental right “remain intact.” Despite this, the judge nevertheless decreed that the school and health care facility “cannot be held liable … because they did not act under color of state law.”

In essence, the judge decided that the school and government agencies could only be held accountable if it acted against a law or a “policy or custom.”  Therefore, Calgaro had no legal claim, he argued. The judge went so far in downplaying parental rights as to rule that a parent’s access to their child’s medical and education records is a question to be solved. He admitted in his ruling that he “explicitly left open the question ‘whether and to what extent the fundamental liberty interest in the custody, care, and management of one’s children mandates parental access to school records.’” The mother’s defense team plans to appeal the ruling to the  U.S. Court of Appeals for the Eighth Circuit.

“Anmarie Calgaro is living a parent’s worst nightmare,” Kaardal of the Thomas More Society said. “Her minor child has been piloted by third parties through a life-changing, permanent body altering process by organizations that have no legal authority over him, and that have denied his own mother access.”LGBTQ advocates supporting the boy’s “transition” outside parental knowledge say the boy’s mother proves her anti-trans prejudice by still referring to her biological son who now looks like a female as “he.”

David Edwards of the transgender group Transforming Families told NBC News that he took offense when Calgaro referred to her son in male pronouns. “Purposefully mis-gendering a transgender person is an act of violence,” Edwards claimed. “To continually do that to your child is not only insensitive but also really harmful,” he said.…liable-for-secretly-helping-your-son-beco?utm_content=bufferf1a61&utm_medium=social&utm_source=endabortion%2Bfacebook&utm_campaign=buffer

5 Long-Time Married Couples Share Their Secrets to a Happy Marriage

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These women have years of experience.

It’s no secret that marriage is not as easy as it looks. Which is why it’s natural for young couples and those who hope to get married someday to look to those who have found marital “success” for advice. As a newlywed, I found that there is something about couples whose marriages have stood the test of time—thirty, forty, fifty years—that is encouraging for my own, even if their marriages haven’t always been perfect.

Ever wonder the secrets to spending a lifetime together? I asked five married women to share what has worked in their marriages, and this is what they said.

01. Differences can help you grow even closer together.

Mary Jo, who has been married for thirty-six years, shares that she and her husband have their fair share of differences. “My husband is flexible; I am consistent. He can do five hundred things in a day; I can do five,” Mary Jo explains. Their secret after thirty-six years? “We respect differences in each other because this is how God made us. We don’t want to change the one we love, even when those same qualities can drive us crazy.”

Mary Jo explains that differences can be found in hobbies and interests, too, but that respect for one another’s differences has helped them grow: “I have learned to be more spontaneous, thereby helping him to feel appreciated and loved for the excitement he brings to every single day.”

She says, “My husband loves to golf. He has respected me by not making me a golf widow. I have respected him by volunteering to drive the cart and keep score on occasion. Interestingly, by listening to him talk about golf and going to the course with him, I developed enough interest that I suggested we golf on our anniversary one year!”

While it seems obvious that a married couple would operate as teammates, it’s hard to practice this day in and day out. Genevieve, married for twenty-nine years, shares that she and her husband struggled with this at first. “One or the other would often think the other spouse was purposefully trying to offend,” Genevieve says. “By focusing on the fact that we are a team and that the intention was to build up rather than to tear down, the immediate default to feel attacked changed.”

To put the team concept into practice, Genevieve says, “Whenever either spouse starts to feel picked on by the other, or if one feels like his or her wants and needs aren’t being met, remind the other spouse that you’re on the same side.”

03. Assume nothing.

When Jane, who has been married for fifty-three years, first got married, she admits she assumed her husband would take on all the roles at home her father did when she was growing up, but she was in for a rude awakening. “I was shocked to discover that my husband was so unlike my father in regard to the maintenance of our home,” she says. “I quickly discovered my husband had no interest, no skill, and no aptitude for home repair.”

Realizing that her husband’s strengths rested in humor and kindness—not his ability to swing a hammer—Jane took an adult education course in home repair and equipped herself with a tool kit. She made the conscious choice to adjust her expectations about who would be doing home maintenance. She laughs, “In the grand scheme of things, being handy around the house is not a necessary virtue in a husband.”

In her five decades of marriage, Jane has learned that responsibilities may be different than expected—for both ourselves and our spouses. Challenging your assumptions about marriage before the wedding day can mitigate disappointment and help to modify expectations and roles to match our strengths.

04. Never underestimate the power of rituals.

Through rituals—consistent practices of showing love within a marriage—we can be sure intimacy is not forgotten in the midst of an active life. Rituals can be informal, such as kissing each other every night before sleep or saying “I love you” before parting ways in the morning. Kim says that throughout her thirty-five years of marriage, rituals have kept them connected. “Rituals help us stay focused on us and not the busyness of the world,” she explains. “Sometimes we can get so caught up in living that we actually forget to live with each other.”

Kim continues, “A kiss, touch, or phrase tenderly reminds us of the love we have for each other. It makes time stand still and lets you forget about everything else for a moment. Even though it may be simple, the loving gesture speaks volumes. The time spent in all of the little things you give each other is what’s priceless.”

05. Don’t lose sight of one another’s dreams.

“Life becomes busy with all the roles we fill: spouse, parent, employee, volunteer, extended family member, friend. You can easily lose yourself in fulfilling all of these roles,” Janece warns. She shares that in her twenty-six years of marriage, she and her husband constantly had to take a step back and check in with one another to make sure they feel they’re on the path they want to be on and are becoming the people they want to be.

Janece and her husband schedule a self-reflection and assessment twice a year. She suggests that each spouse ask themselves, “Am I fully engaged with each aspect of my life? What needs adjustment?” When couples attentively listen and discuss these questions, they keep one another’s love map up to date and build intimacy. Prioritizing one another’s dreams and ambitions helps remind you why you fell in love in the first place.

By reflecting on the wisdom and ideas from other successful marriages, we can step closer to a unique, happy, long-lasting marriage of our own.

Photo Credit: Kitchener Photography


Well Duh!

Premarital counseling can decrease divorce rates, psychologist says


Writer Lauren Hanson in a July 6, 2017 article in “the Daily Universe” finds it curious that

Americans receive education and training before receiving a driver’s license, yet,  when those same people seek a marriage license, relatively few of them receive education about how to establish a successful marriage. And college psychology professor Scott Braithwaite said this analogy is real — people who are planning to marry need to go into it with some kind of education.

Braithwaite, a clinical psychologist trained in couples therapy, has been studying marital distress and divorce prevention for over 10 years and is a strong advocate for premarital counseling. “Premarital counseling is a great way for people to do their homework about the most important decision they are ever going to make so that they can go into it armed with skills that are going to be very helpful,” Braithwaite said.

A professor at BYU, Braithwaite said some premarital counseling studies show the practice decreases the likelihood of divorce by 50 percent. However, he also said those who take advantage of these programs are usually wealthy, religious and educated — in other words, those who statistically need premarital counseling the least.  (more…)